A self-paced course by Evelyn A. Stonebridge. Five short video lessons, the same lessons as audio, and a printable workbook. It works if you do it together. It works just as well if you’re the only one trying.
Most couples do not have twenty arguments
They have one argument, wearing twenty different costumes.
Somebody leaves a cup by the sink. Ten minutes later you’re both saying things you don’t mean. The cup is not the problem. The cup is the spark. What matters is how dry the ground already was.
If you keep having the same fight, five lessons from now you will be able to name it, interrupt it inside the first two minutes, and close it properly instead of leaving it open.
If you’re the only one trying
Most people who buy something like this buy it alone. Their partner won’t read a book about arguing, won’t go to counseling, and wouldn’t thank anyone for suggesting either. That’s the ordinary case, not the sad exception.
Three of the five lessons work entirely on your side of the argument. Naming the pattern, spotting the moment it turns, and the three moves that bring the temperature down are all things one person does. You don’t need agreement, and you don’t have to announce that you’re doing anything. If your partner wants to join in later, the workbook has room for two.
What you get
- Five video lessons, about 31 minutes in total. Short on purpose.
- The same five lessons as audio, for the car, the gym, or a walk.
- An eight-page printable workbook, built to survive a home printer in black and white.
- A seven-day practice track, so the method gets used rather than admired.
- Instant access. Stream it in your browser or download every file and keep it.
The five lessons
- The argument you keep having. Why the spark is never the fire, and how to name your pattern out loud.
- Where it goes wrong in the first two minutes. The four pitfalls, what your body said before you spoke, and why this is never a conversation to have by text.
- Three moves that bring the temperature down. Own the feeling, repeat it back, and take the pause properly.
- Resolving it, not winning it. The dishes are never the dishes. Find the need under the position, and use the sixty second bridge.
- Repair, the part most couples skip. What a real apology contains, and the rituals that put you back on the same side.
Who this is for
Couples in a rough patch rather than a crisis, and just as often one half of that couple, reading alone. If you want a method for stopping the argument rather than a philosophy about it, you’re in the right place. You don’t need your partner’s agreement to start.
Who this is not for
A partner who will not do a course is the ordinary case rather than the sad exception, and this course is built for it. So is a partner who will not talk about the relationship. That is one of the most common situations there is, and three of the five lessons work entirely on your side of it.
What this course cannot reach is a different thing. If there is abuse in your relationship, if you are afraid of your partner rather than frustrated by them, if you are in the middle of an infidelity crisis, or if your partner has already decided to leave, this is not the right tool and it would be wrong to pretend otherwise.
Those situations need a professional, and asking for that help is a strength, not a failure. This course is education, not therapy, and nobody reads or reviews what you write in the workbook.
How it works
Pay, and we email you your own personal link to the course, normally within a minute. Open it and everything is on one page. Every lesson plays in your browser, and every file downloads if you’d rather keep it: video, audio, and the workbook as a PDF. Nothing to install, no account to create.
One payment, $37
Not a subscription. The price you see is the price you pay, wherever you are, with any local tax already included.
Checkout is handled by Stripe. If the course isn’t for you, ask for a refund within 30 days and you’ll get one.
Questions
Is this therapy or counseling?
No. It is a self-study course: education, not treatment. There is no live element, no coaching call, and no one on the other end reviewing your answers.
My partner won’t do this. Is it still worth it?
Yes, and that is the most common way it gets used. Three of the five lessons are about what you do: naming the pattern, spotting the moment it turns, and the three moves that lower the temperature. None of that needs agreement, or even a conversation about the course. Two worksheets are designed to be filled in side by side if you ever get the chance, and they’ll keep until you do.
How long does it take?
About 31 minutes of video. The practice track spreads over seven days, because the point is to use one move at a time, not to finish quickly.
Can I download it, or is it streaming only?
Both. Every lesson streams in the browser, and the video, the audio, and the workbook all download from the same page.
Who is Evelyn A. Stonebridge?
Evelyn A. Stonebridge writes the Mindful Relationship series. This course is built from her book Relationship Conflict Resolution, and it brings in the sixty second bridge from The MODE Switch.
What if I lose the link?
It is in the email we send the moment you pay. Keep that email, or bookmark the page it opens, and download the files, which are yours to keep either way. It is not in your payment receipt, which is a separate email from Link about the money. If you lose both, contact us and we will send you a fresh link.